Should You Stay or Should You Go? How to Decide If It’s Time to Quit

Disclaimer: The information provided in this blog post is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. It is important to consult with legal professionals for guidance on specific legal matters. Results on engagements and online courses may vary, successful outcome is not guaranteed.

One of the hardest questions any professional faces is: Should I stay in this job—or is it time to go?

If you’re a Black woman navigating today’s workplace, that question comes with an even heavier weight. The microaggressions, glass cliffs, unequal pay, and lack of support often leave us carrying stress that’s invisible to everyone but us. Add in the constant pressure to prove yourself while being overlooked or undermined, and it’s no wonder so many of us find ourselves torn between staying put and protecting the paycheck—or walking away for the sake of our health and dignity.

I’ve been there. And I know many of you are there right now. So let’s talk about the signs that it may be time to quit, how to weigh your options, and what you can do to protect yourself—no matter which path you take.

1. Listen to Your Body

If your body is telling you something is wrong—believe it. Anxiety on Sunday night, racing thoughts before bed, or unexplained health issues tied to work are all signs that your job may be harming you. This isn’t just stress—it’s a warning.

Document these changes, too. Keep notes. Protect your story. My AntiHR Documentation Journal was created for exactly this reason: so you can track what’s happening and build the record you need if you ever decide to fight back or negotiate your exit.

2. Check the Paper Trail

Toxic workplaces often push employees out by shifting the narrative—suddenly you’re “underperforming” despite years of strong reviews, or you’re put on a PIP with impossible goals.

This is why you must always have documentation on your side. Pair your Documentation Journal with the AntiHR Roadmap to Understanding Your Workplace Rights which breaks down exactly how to spot discrimination, retaliation, and other violations so you’re never caught off guard.

Because here’s the truth: whether you stay or go, the paper trail protects you, not HR.

3. Evaluate Growth and Support

Ask yourself: is there room for growth here, or am I simply being drained? If your workload keeps increasing while your pay and opportunities remain stagnant, you already have your answer.

And don’t ignore your support system. If leadership won’t back you up, if HR gaslights your concerns, or if you’re expected to tolerate hostile behavior to “prove” yourself, know this: you’re not supported—and nothing about that is sustainable.

4. Think Strategically About Your Exit

Quitting without a plan can cost you. Before you leave, ask yourself:

Do I have savings or another income stream?
Can I negotiate a severance package that gives me breathing room?
Do I have my documentation ready to support my claims if HR pushes back?

This is where strategy matters. The AntiHR Community Membership gives you access to resources, tools, and live Q&A sessions to help you make these decisions with clarity—not panic. You don’t have to figure this out alone.

Join now and get:

The AntiHR Documentation Journal + the Roadmap to Understanding your Workplace Rights
Access to Live Q&A sessions
Free templates, webinars, and early access to tools

👉🏾 Become a Member Today

5. Consider Entrepreneurship as a Path Forward

Sometimes the best move isn’t another job—it’s creating something of your own. Entrepreneurship isn’t for everyone, but it can be one of the most powerful ways to reclaim your time, energy, and freedom.

That’s why I created Entrepreneurship 101: What Do You Really Need to Know?

The first session, The Truth About Becoming an Entrepreneur, kicks off on September 18, 2025. We’ll cover mindset, sacrifices, testing your idea, and the first 90 days of building a business.

👉🏾 Registration opens September 1. If you’re even thinking about entrepreneurship, this is where you start.

Final Thoughts

Whether you stay or go, the priority is always you. No company is worth your health, your dignity, or your future.

So here’s your strategy:

Use the AntiHR Documentation Journal to track what’s happening.
Study the AntiHR Roadmap to Understanding Your Workplace Rights so you know exactly where you stand.
Join the AntiHR Membership Community for the support, strategies, and live conversations you need to make your next move.
Explore Entrepreneurship 101 if you’re ready to build something of your own.

For more tips about navigating and escaping difficult HR situations:

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HR is not your enemy, but they are definitely not your friend.

Because at the end of the day, your job is just that—a job. You are the real asset. Protect yourself, invest in yourself, and move with intention.